The Impact of One

Throughout my middle and high school years, I exchanged letters with a girl who is several years older than me. She made a huge impact on my life, guiding me through the tough times those years presented. I don’t think she’s aware of the full aspect of her influence. Sometimes, I don’t think I’m aware myself. But there was one thing I knew all those years ago: I wanted the opportunity to pay it forward. I prayed that I would one day be able to be that person for someone else.

Well, God sent me not one, but two younger girls with whom I’m in consistent communication. And as I wrote the one girl last night, I couldn’t help thinking: This is all because of Faith. Had she not taken me under her wing ten years ago, I probably wouldn’t be writing Lauren and Ariel. And who knows where Faith got the idea to write me. So in a roundabout kind of way, Faith has an influence on these two girls that she doesn’t even know.

I think life works that way more often than we realize. Sometimes the things we do for the benefit of one person carry farther than we’ll ever know. Often it’s the little things that we don’t think truly matter that have the greatest impact on a person’s life. And while you may not ever see the fruit of your labor, you’re touching more people than you know.

So keep persevering in the little things. You never know how many lives may be touched by the impact of one.

Someone You Can’t Live Without

Perhaps DragonHeart isn’t what you think of when someone says the word “fairytale,” but when you grow up with three brothers, you are just as familiar with it as you are with Cinderella. And since it has all the fantastical qualities of a fairytale (an evil king, a dragon that sounds like Sean Connery, and a knight in shining armor who beats Prince Charming any day), we’re going to learn a few things from this masculine fairytale.

The story begins with a battle in which the young prince Einon is critically injured. The queen’s longstanding family history of peace and friendship with the dragon race is the only thing that can save her son.  She swears that her son will not follow in the footsteps of his wicked father, but be trained in justice. Because of her promise, the dragon agrees to give half of his heart to the dying prince. His heart keeps Einon alive. The prince’s life depends on that dragon, not only in the moment when he receives the heart, but throughout the rest of his life. When Einon hurts, the dragon hurts. Einon cannot live without the dragon, nor can he die until the dragon is destroyed. Their lives are intertwined, and their deaths are likewise.

The one quote that has struck me most strongly regarding singleness/dating is the statement made by Shannon Kubiak Primicerio in her book The Divine Dance. “Don’t look for someone you can live with; look for someone you cannot live without.” The thing I find most fascinating about the idea of marriage is the mystery of two people becoming one. They are still two separate people with two different personalities, yet somehow they are as one. When he hurts, she hurts; when’s he’s happy, she’s happy. Their lives are intricately connected in a way that I suppose I will never understand until I’m married.

I’m one of those people who believe that God created me with a certain man in mind. And while He gave me my own heart and own passions, one day, my heart is going to mold perfectly into the heart of another. I’m holding out for that one somebody whose heartbeat matches mine, who hurts when I hurt, and sings when I sing. I’m holding out for the man whose passions compliment mine, who values the things I value, and whose vision comes into alignment with my own. And while I’ve met many guys who I’ve figured I could live with, I’m not settling for something as simple as that. I’m holding out for the man I was created to become one with – the man I cannot live without.