Got your attention, didn’t I? I would know. See, I didn’t make the title up. It was an honest-to-goodness question I read on someone else’s blog – a question that nearly knocked me out of my chair.
Of course not! That’s preposterous! But this was the question that inspired a whole blog post (two posts, if you want to count mine). Is it a sin to be single? Our culture would like to think so. I got on yahoo this morning and saw a headline that read: “Top cities for single women to live”. Even yahoo is playing matchmaker these days.
But there I was, browsing this blog about singleness when I read the question: “Does the single fact that I am not married mean I am not following in the footsteps of God?”
In case that’s something you’re honestly pondering, let me put your mind at ease… No, no, and more no. Don’t believe me? Check this out:
“An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.” -1 Corinthians 7:34-35
According to Paul, it’s the single women who seem to have it together. Singleness is not a curse; it’s a calling. Just as marriage is a calling.
No, it’s not a sin to be single. So release your fears, release your frustrations, release your concerns with the affairs of this world and let yourself live in undivided devotion to the Lord.
And let’s not forget that Jesus and Paul–our God and one of his greatest disciples–were both single! I’m so glad to find your blog. I’ve started blogging about singleness and the church recently, and it’s great to see there are other people out here interested in the same thing!
So glad you were encouraged. Mostly, my heart is to not let these years go wasted. From skimming over your blog I realize that you may be the exception, but most women will get married someday. My goal is to take their minds off the someday and help them embrace THIS day. Because ultimately, it’s not your relationship status that defines you.
Yes, and I’m not opposed to the idea of marriage, I just don’t think, at this time, that it’s what God has in mind for me. But either way, it doesn’t seem productive to spend all your time waiting on something, instead of enjoying the time you have right in front of you.
“Because ultimately, it’s not your relationship status that defines you.” – Exactly! 🙂